The new year usually inspires us set plans for the upcoming year. We think of all the goals we want to set, the weight we vow to lose and the vacations we swear we are going to take! But it also makes me look back at the current year.
I look at the goals I set for myself, the ones that I met and the ones that I didn’t. I look at the friendships I have made and lost. I look at the loved ones that have passed on and mentally hug their memory. I also take a long hard look at myself.
This year I have noticed I have wasted a lot of time. I have wasted time worrying about what people think of me. I have wasted precious moments thinking about my faults, my imperfections, and all the things I wish I could change. I have wasted energy thinking about people or moments that, in the long run, do not define me!
I have spent so much time thinking about the worst case scenario, waiting for the other shoe to drop, or concentrating on those that have hurt me, when I have so much to be grateful for! Even the moments that have consumed me have been things I should have looked at in a more positive light.
We are all imperfect, we all have physical things we could change but we are also just fine as we are! We may have some extra weight around our middle but we also have good hearts or a great smile. Why don’t we focus more on those things?
Instead of thinking about the worst case, I should have said a thankful prayer that my hardship was able to be overcome.
Instead of waiting for a shoe to drop, I should have focused on the silver lining.
Instead of concentrating on those that hurt me, I should have been grateful for those that supported me, fed my spirit and made me happy!
I have been working with Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map to really focus on how I want to feel for 2018. It’s not about making a long list of things I want to get or about focusing on physical changes; it’s about getting to the core of how you want to feel. Feelings about yourself, feelings of how you want others to see you, feelings that feed your soul.
I made my list of CDF (Core Desired Feelings) at this website: http://www.daniellelaporte.com/desire-map-graphic-maker/
I want to feel:
I will say that I highly recommend Danielle’s book and if you are looking for a more intimate experience she has an online class on Codyapp.com that is like a one-on-one session to work through the items in the book that is really great!
So, as you are setting your resolutions for 2018, put yourself on the list! Put your mindset on the list! It’s not always about losing weight or buying that new car; sometimes it’s just about changing your mindset and being grateful and present. I challenge all of you to turn some of the focus on yourself!
How do you want to feel in 2018? Do you want to feel lighter (less burdened)? Do you want to feel more loving and compassionate? Do you want to feel more powerful or determined? Say it out loud! Write it down! Repeat it like a mantra.
As always I welcome your comments, I welcome your questions and I hope to hear from you all.
In the spirit of making 2018 easier, here is a super easy crock pot recipe for you!
Remember the school lunch turkey gravy over mashed potatoes…well this is almost it and couldn’t be easier!
- 1 pkg (2 count) Turkey Breast tenderloins
- 1 1/2 c turkey or chicken stock
- 1 jar or 12 oz turkey gravy
- 4 russet potatoes
- 2 oz cream cheese
- 1/2 c milk
- 2 tbsp butter
- Seasonings such as Salt, Pepper, Onion
Add turkey breast tenderloin and stock to your crock pot. Season with salt, pepper, Onion Onion (or onion powder). Cook on high for 3 hours or low for 6. Take forks are shred or chunk turkey. Add gravy in crock pot and warm through. In a pot add peeled and medium diced potatoes and cover with cold water. Bring to a boil for 20 minutes. Drain potatoes and add butter, milk and cream cheese to pot. Warm these liquids and add potatoes. Mash with handheld mixer or potato masher. Serve with veggie of choice and Enjoy!
For a little more labor intensive but SUPER delicious turkey dinner also try this amazing recipe: