This is not a book review blog, but I just have to talk about this book! I know I just wrote about The Shack and that was also a great book but You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero is one of the most motivating, empowering, and honest books I have ever read!
Jen tells you the truth; that in order to be successful, you have to believe you are worth it. You have to throw all other inner voices out the window and truly think you can. You have to not ever take no for an answer.
I am telling you, this lady is SMART!
Here is a quote from Chapter 7 – I Know You Are But What am I? “Because if you base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you, you hand all your power over to other people and become dependent on a source outside of yourself for validation” p. 67.
Preach Jen, Preach!
Or this one from Chapter 11 – Your Brain is Your Bitch, “When you hang out with whiners, pessimists, tweakers, bleakers, freakers-outers and life-is-so-unfairersm it’s an uphill climb to keep yourself in a positive headspace. Stay away from people with tiny minds and tiny thoughts and start hanging out with people who see limitless possibility as the reality. Surround yourself with people who act on their big ideas, who take action in making a positive change in the world and who see nothing as out of their reach” p. 99.
I mean, Whoa, right?!
And Chapter 15…it is my favorite and I am pretty sure Jen wrote the entire chapter just for me.
Chapter 15: Forgive or Fester
“When is the last time when you physically hurt yourself? What did you do to get the pain to stop? And how long did you wait to do something about it? When we’re in physical pain, we’re usually extremely proactive about figuring out how to make it go away immediately because, you know, it hurts. Even if we have to go through more pain from pouring a disinfectant that stings on an open wound or suffering through getting stitches, we do it, right away, because we’re very focused on our ultimate goal: relief. When it comes to our emotional pain, however, we’re apparently way more game for seeing how much torture we can endure, wallowing in our guilt, shame, resentment, and self-loathing, sometimes for entire lifetimes” p. 121-122.
“Holding on to resentment is like taking poison and waiting for your enemies to die” p. 123.
“What you focus on, you create more of, and if you keep expecting people to annoy you they will not let you down. Focus on their finer points and encourage their good behavior if you want to create more of it” p. 128.
But the most important message in this book is:
Everything else will come, if you love yourself. Want a new career, love yourself. Want to find the man/ woman of your dreams, love yourself. Want to start your own business, love yourself! And if you really think about it, it’s true. If you are in a place where you are loving yourself and truly nurturing your own needs, you know what you want and you know that you are worthy of it.
I am not the poster child for self love. In fact I usually listen to this stuff and pass it on as really great advice but rarely take it for myself. Not this time! And this book is what did it for me.
What do you do everyday to love yourself? Do you workout, meditate, take a bubble bath, or take some quiet time? What is something you could do more of to LOVE yourself?
Greek Inspired Chicken Marinade:
1-4 boneless skinless chicken breasts (actually you could do this with any pieces you like, skin or no skin)
1-2 tbsp olive oil
2 tsp oregano
1/2 tbsp Tastefully Simple – Spinach and Herb seasoning
1/2 tbsp Tastefully Simple – Garlic, Garlic seasoning
1 tsp Tastefully Simple – Seasoned Salt
1/2 lemon – juice
Let marinade for 1-2 hours
Grill until cooked through
I served mine with jeweled quinoa, humus, and celery sticks but some grilled veggies (eggplant, summer squash, zucchini would be great too!) Super good for leftovers on a salad as well! Enjoy!