What I Actually Hear

man-woman-talking-chairs-line-drawing“This meat is tough!”

I hear, “Dinner is terrible and you are not doing your part”

“You look nice.”

I hear, “You could look better and I am ashamed to have you on my arm.”

“Why don’t you come to the gym with me?”Capturef

I hear, “You need to get your ass to the gym cause you are getting fat and I don’t find you attractive anymore.”

“A Liberal Arts degree is not worth the paper it’s printed on.”

I hear, “You have wasted your time and our money doing something that is worthless, you never should have gone back to school.”

This is how my brain takes just a normal comment and twists it into a sharpened dagger to pierce my heart. It has a name. It’s called Cognitive Distortion.


These are just two of the ways in which cognitive distortions present themselves.

The worst part is knowing that it is unhealthy and understanding that it’s your brain playing tricks on you, but not being able to stop it. download (19)

This is similar to the previous post I wrote about the record player, but this is a reaction to someone else’s comments. I cannot imagine how hard it is to live with someone that turns everything you say into an attack. The Hubs does a great job in trying to shut down the negatives, rephrase so that I don’t translate his words wrong, and reassure me when I am in darkness.

So when you are thinking negative, when your brain is broken, and when you are feeling like negative words are swimming in your head; you are not alone! Try to keep your chin up. Let the thoughts come and go, without leaving a bruise on your spirit. Meditate, sing happy songs to push it away, or let out a good cry. You will get through the other side.

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If only it were that easy, right?!

What’s your inner voice say when someone is talking to you? What do you do to pull yourself through those tough thoughts?



Caprese Salad Skewers with Peppered Salami

So, these little devils started out as caprese salad skewers my cousin brought to a family function. They have since gained an addition of salami and are constantly in the fridge for the Hubs to take with him in his lunch. These little bites couldn’t be easier to make and can be customized for your tastes. They are a perfect snack or appetizer to bring to a potluck.



  • 1 8oz containers of bocconcini (mini mozzarella balls), marinated or not
  • 1 package grape or cherry tomatoes
  • 1 package pepper crusted salami (see image below)
  • 20 or so fresh basil leaves
  • 2-4 tbsp balsamic vinaigrette


Rinse tomatoes. Drain bocconcini. Wash basil leaves. Skewer ingredients. Drizzle with vinaigrette or serve on the side for dipping.

Alternative ideas:

Add olives! From Kalamata to just plain green, an olive would be a great addition.

Cubes instead of slices: You can use chunks of salami or pepperoni or any other meat you like, we just like the peppered salami in our house.73007107171

Switch up the dip: Use a olive oil and basil or seasoned dressing instead of balsamic.

Don’t like tomatoes: use roasted zucchini or mini peppers.






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